Utah Weddings

Walking Down the Aisle Alone

July 3rd, 2008 by A UtahWeddings Expert

Theresa wrote:
My finance and I are getting married next May. This is my second marriage and his first. My Dad passed away 4 years ago and there really isn’t anyone that I’m close to, to walk me down the aisle.

Do I have to have someone walk me down, or could I walk down alone? I appreciate any input you may have.

Hi Theresa,
The tradition of the father walking his daughter down the aisle has been around for years and signifies the father giving his daughter to another, as well as indicating to the groom that he has faith him and his daughter’s decision. In your situation this can’t happen exactly as tradition dictates, but can still be an uplifting and signification part of your ceremony.

Even though your father has passed, there must be someone in your life that has made an impact on you and can represent your father. Often times brothers, uncles or even a nephew or cousin can represent your father in the walk to the altar. If those options aren’t available, think outside of the box and have your mother walk hand-in-hand with you. She is obviously the closest connection you have to your father and your ceremony would only benefit from her filling those shoes.

If having someone in place of your father doesn’t feel right to you, walking down the aisle alone is perfectly acceptable and actually very common in non-secular ceremonies. The bride making her last few steps in life alone can be perceived as very significant and symbolic of the impending union of you and your fiance.

Rebecca Hinman - Event Coordinator

The Kids Stay in the Wedding Pictures

June 25th, 2008 by A UtahWeddings Expert

Heidy wrote:
We have been together for three years and plan on getting married next May. I have 2 children from a previous marriage and he has one and we have 1 together. He has adopted my children and he is pretty much the only father they have known and we would like do do something to include them in the ceremony.Do you have any suggestions? Also our family and friends have children and we would like to have a kid-friendly reception too. Do you have any suggestions on how to incorporate kids fun/area into the reception?

Hi Heidy,
Clearly the best way to incorporate the children into the wedding party is to include them in the actual ceremony. Give the children ring bearing or rose-petal scattering responsibilities and they will feel like they are center stage.

In terms of the reception, it is very common here in Utah to have children present. Because our culture is so family oriented, having children as part of the celebration has become commonplace for many couples. If finances aren’t an issue, why not make the reception a celebration of uniting two families and focus on the children. A circus theme with inflatable bouncy toys, a photo booth (or some equivalent), popcorn machine and mini hotdogs and hamburgers would make for a festive time that celebrates the children as well.

Another idea would be to arm the older children with rugged digital cameras and make them the unofficial photographers of the day. Because children tend to think creatively, you may come away with some of the most personal memories of your wedding.

At the very least, have someone assigned to keep the children happy. Often times a room or designated children’s area with a TV, a Disney movie and a table of goodies will keep the kids entertained for hours. I have also seen some weddings that have created a “kids only” buffet table full of finger foods and smaller portions. Perfect for the little ones.

Rebecca Hinman - Event Coordinator

The Best Colors for February

June 24th, 2008 by A UtahWeddings Expert

Andie wrote:
I am just woundering what would be the best colors for a wedding in Febuary? I am not in love with just one color so I dont have my heart set on one thing. What do you think would look good?

Hi Andie,
It sounds like you are flexible and open to suggestions, which is a good thing! While deciding on your color scheme look for colors that reflect you and your fiancé’s style and personality. Try to select the location first, and then determine what colors would work since a predetermined color might clash with the décor of your venue.

To choose a color palette that blends nicely, consult the color wheel. You can pick one up at any craft store in the art section. When using the color wheel remember opposites are classic color choices. Red and green or yellow and violet are considered complementary colors.

Related color schemes (or accent colors) are colors next to each other like green, blue green, blue. Fiddling with shades and tints can give you a lot of different looks depending on how they are used. Usually a shade (darker) or tint (lighter) combinations look lovely together. Monochromatic is different tints and shades of the same color like, pale blue to navy with any in between on the scale. Also picking up paint strips or fabric swatches are very helpful in getting the exact color and are helpful to take to your florist and cake person.

If you go with an intense color, dark or primary (red or blue) use it as a focal color, and use accent colors to frame your main color or neutrals. Neutrals are white, gray, beige, metallic and black. Consider one color used sparingly, a metallic used lightly to add drama and another neutral or accent color used more abundantly. An example of this would be sapphire blue, silver and an abundance of a tint of blue/lavender if you want to play up the winter snow. Any rich jewel tone will look fantastic for a winter wedding!

Here are a few popular color combinations that work well together:

  • Turquoise and Red
  • Purple in different shades
  • Navy Blue and Silver
  • Chocolate Brown and Tifffany Blue or Robin Egg Blue
  • Black and White with Lime accent

Once you’ve chosen your location and colors, you can always get a second opinion from your florist, wedding planner and/or decorator.
- Christine Miller (of LiBella Wedding Planning & Design)

Christine Miller is the owner of LiBella Wedding Planning & Design. Christine is available to coordinate memorable and unique events for couples in Utah and across the USA. If you’re looking for someone to plan your event from beginning to end with a unique flair and style, contact Christine at www.LiBellaConsulting.com.

The Second Marriage Situation

June 16th, 2008 by A UtahWeddings Expert

Deena wrote:
I have been married before and have children from my previous marriage. My fiance has never been married before and has no children. He wants a traditional reception. What is ‘proper’ for me where I have been married before? In terms of dress? Would I address anything on the invitations I send to people who came to my first wedding? I don’t want them to feel like they have to buy me a gift again just because I am sending them an invitation.

Hi Cory,
You aren’t alone in asking this question. Because over half of all couples end up divorced, a second marriage and the questions of what is appropriate for the events are very common. Honestly, this question comes down to who is paying for the marriage. If you and your fiance are flipping the bill, then by all means have a party! However, if you are expecting mom and dad to pay for the second marriage, then you are out of luck. They have no ethical obligation to pay for another event, as they may have invested heavily on the first marriage.

In terms of dress, that is entirely up to you. If your fiance wants the traditional attire, then by all means wear the traditional dress. However, most second marriages tend to have a more casual approach in terms of attire.

In regards to the gift question, you may want to include a “no gifts” phrase in your invitation. It is not appropriate to assume that guests of the first marriage should buy gifts for the second one. Though this may be a challenge for your fiance, it is the considerate route. In the event he will not budge on wanting gifts, be prepared to print out two separate invitations - one for new guests and the other for “returning” guests.

A Ceremony Minus The Religion

June 16th, 2008 by A UtahWeddings Expert

Cory wrote:
We are a couple that wants a nice ceremony MINUS the religious undertones thatseem to come along with most officiants we have witnessed. Does anyone have any suggestions for a judge or non denominational minister that can perform an elegant ceremony and leave out the “time and all eternity?”

Hi Cory,
This is a great question, considering the religious climate in Utah. Most of the ceremonies that take place in the state include strong religious themes and references, and have structured ceremonies that include specific religious terminology. However, you will be hard pressed to find the phrase, “time and all eternity” used in many non-LDS ceremonies.

Your best direction would be to contact a number of officiants and ministers in the state, and be very specific about the needs of your ceremony. Non-denominational officiants generally have a number of pre-scripted ceremonies that can be modified to fit the specific needs of you and your fiance. If they don’t have what you are looking for, they should be upfront with you about not being able to perform your ceremony. Make a list of questions and requirements prior to calling and be very up front about your thoughts. A great place to start would be with the officiants and ministers on our site.

Keep in mind also that the ceremony is for you. If your family has reservations or objections to your approach, be sensitive but straightforward in telling them of your desires. This is a one-shot deal (fingers crossed), so make it as relative to you and your future spouse’s belief system as possible.

Sage Green and What?!

June 26th, 2007 by A UtahWeddings Expert

Rae Rae wrote:
I need help trying to find a color scheme. what colors go good with a sage green and dark brown?

Hi Rae Rae,
Earth tones and especially sage green have been popular color schemes in the recent months but can be a confusing set to pull together when it comes to flowers and the decor of your event. Eggplants, antiqued purples, creams, whites, and in some cases blacks are great colors that match sage green. There are a suprising amount of flowers that come in eggplant and sage green color tones, both tones that brides usually think they are limited on. Of course the variety of whites and creams is more extensive. Monkey tail (a leafy Carribean shrub) looks stunning airbrushed black and there are many other details that can be incorporated in difficult tones. There is a rose variety that is stunningly unique, its petals have a sage green tone and their centers have an aged light purple tone. This is one of my favorites for the sage color scheme and reminds me of classic romance look.

-Audrey O’Brien (of Studio Stems)

Floral Designer, Audrey O’Brien, operates Studio Stems. She has been a member of the UtahWeddings community for many years and provides wedding floral services throughout the state. To contact her, visit studiostems.com

Scrapbooks or a Wedding Album?

June 26th, 2007 by A UtahWeddings Expert

2. Kaitlyn L. wrote:
My husband and I were married this last December. Well, my husband’s aunt is a photographer and for everyone’s wedding in his family she does the photography as a wedding present. I am very pleased with how all the pictures turned out, but she doesn’t do wedding albums. All of our pictures are just put into a picture book. One of my friends just got her wedding album back and it is beautiful. Each page was the picture or several pictures. Is there anywhere that I can get this done? Or am I going to just have to scrap book them myself?

Hi Kaitlyn,
It’s always nice when you have family members that are also photographers. Unfortunately, they might not have access to the same type of products that wedding-photography studios do. The album that your friend received is what we call a flush mount album and there are literally hundreds of companies that produce them, but the majority of them will only work with photographers.
Your best option would be to contact any photographer in your area to see if they would be willing to create a flush mount album for you - just like the one your friend had. If you try this option, be prepared to pay at least $1000 or more for a high quality album (plus design).

-Brody Dezember (of Brody Dezember Photography)

Brody Dezember owns and operates Brody Dezember Photography in Downtown Salt Lake City. His creative, yet playful approach to wedding photography has made him a popular choice along the Wasatch Front. His services are also often requested at weddings and events across the U.S.A.. To contact him, visit DezemberPhoto.com

My Unmarried Sister

April 10th, 2007 by A UtahWeddings Expert

1. Becky wrote:
How can I make an unmarried (and not happy about my wedding) sister feel involved and have a good time? Is there some kind of tradition or fun way to involve her?

It is very thoughtful of you to think about your sister, and to consider her needs and feelings as a factor in your wedding planning. People may often interpret an emotional family member as being jealous or distracting, when in fact those feelings are often a need to be involved. Your wedding is just one day, while your relationship with your sister is forever . You may want to assess the situation by asking her to take on small duties in the planning process. A day alone with her - going to lunch or a movie - may help you to understand her true feelings and figure out what part she could play in the bigger wedding picture.
Many brides give a sister the role of putting on a bridal shower or planning a pre-wedding night out with close girlfriends and family. It gives them a distraction from the actual wedding day, while keeping them involved in the special event. You may also want to assign your sister a role that capitalizes on one of her strengths. Perhaps a greeter at the wedding, a “personal shopper” for bridesmaids gifts, or assisting you in establishing a color theme for the actual day.
I would suggest creating your own traditions. Weddings rely heavily on traditions already. Create your own with your sister. It may have a huge impact on the relationship down the road.

A Reception Before the Wedding?

February 14th, 2007 by A UtahWeddings Expert

1. Cindy C. wrote:
We are looking for places for a rehearsal dinner for our Son and his Bride for about 75 guests. Do you have a list of possible locations?

The best place to search for your perfect location would be in the Banquet & Reception Sites area on this web site. Most places that do receptions also do rehearsal dinners.

2. Annette wrote:
Rebecca, I was wondering about ring ceremonies. I am planning on doing one and then having a dinner. However, I have only been to one and am not familiar with how they should run. If you could give me a simple outline of how a ring ceremony should be, that would be very much appreciated. Thank you.

The main purpose of a ring ceremony is to help those close to you - that were not able to attend your wedding ceremony - feel a part of it. Most ceremonies are not very long. You will want some sort of officiator to preside over this. The officiator tells about the wedding ceremony that took place earlier and then the two of you exchange rings. Before deciding anything, I would first settle on who is going to be the officiator. It should be someone who attended the actual wedding. It can be a Bishop, Stake President, father, brother, uncle or anyone that you are close to. After this is decided, ask them what they feel is appropriate. They may have some guidelines. Some ask that you keep it simple and that you not try to reenact the actually ceremony, while some are okay with you doing this. You can go as formal as having an aisle way for attendants, flower girls, a ring bearer and having the father give away the Bride. Or you may want to keep it simple and have just the Bride & Groom come in together. Some have added special toasts, musical numbers and/or readings after you exchange rings, but most wedding parties transition right into the dinner or the event they are having.

3. Misty wrote:
Both of our families are prone to overloading the schedule, so we want to have our reception on a day other than the wedding day. How soon before/after the wedding day would you recommend having the reception? Are these receptions any less successful than the traditional reception on the day of the wedding?

Receptions that are held before a wedding have not been as comfortable for the couple. I find that couples are more relaxed if the reception is held on the day of the wedding or after. Waiting a week or two after your wedding day is just as successful as on the wedding day. But there are a few things to keep in mind. Think about family and friends that may be coming into town or missing work for the wedding. They may miss out on the reception if it is later. Though this day and time is about the two of you, it is also about your loved ones. They are just as excited and they want to celebrate with you. Also look at the budget. There will be things you may need to have twice such as a wedding bouquet, Boutonnières, other flowers, tuxedo rentals and cleaning of the wedding dress. Also keep in mind if you will be going on your honeymoon and then coming back for the reception. You will want to be extremely organized and ready before going. Otherwise it can feel just as overloaded as if it was on the day of the wedding.

Do They Make Light Brown Tuxedos?

February 2nd, 2007 by A UtahWeddings Expert

1. Kristi wrote:
I was wondering, how is the best way to request money instead of gifts? I am getting married out of state and it would be too difficult to haul everything back.

Kristi, I have had several questions pertaining to how to request money instead of gifts. I have also been asked how to word having a money tree on your announcements. Though we all want money and gifts, we should not ask for them. There should be no mention of money or gifts on an invitation. Nor should there be any mention of where you are registered. You are inviting your guest to come to your wedding; you are not inviting them to bring you a gift. It’s okay to have a money tree at your reception and it’s definitely okay to register. Both are fun and both make it more convenient for those getting you a gift. However, where you are registered or if you prefer money or gifts should only be passed along by word of mouth.
2. Vickie wrote:
Is it ever really too soon to start planning your wedding?

It is never too soon to start planning your wedding day. You might find though that the things you currently love you may not be so fond of down the road. Trends are always changing, especially colors. The season in which you get married will also change how you do things. But why not get ideas and start looking around? There are so many options out there that starting early will give you a chance to really find what you love.
3. T. wrote:
What should I expect to pay for an event planner or an event decorator to decorate my wedding? What are the factors?

An event planner can save you a lot of money and save you a lot of valuable time. They know about the services out there and they know the people in the business. Most event planners will take a percentage of the total amount of the wedding as their pay. If you are having someone do only the or an decorating and not the planning, then they will either include their pay with what you are renting or they will have a per hour labor charge. It would be important to know up front what you want them to do for you, as this will determine the price. Having someone plan the whole event for you from start to finish will cost more than someone that will be doing just parts of it.

4. Erin wrote:
I am having a wedding in May and my colors are pink and brown. My fiancé wants to wear a tux instead of a suit. My family says that he cannot wear a black tux as it would clash with the brown. What other options are there. Do they make light brown tuxedos?

Hi Erin. They do make light brown and also chocolate brown tuxedos - I know Calvin Klein and Claiborne have both options. Another choice is to go with an Ivory (not white) Tuxedo and do a brown vest and tie. Both options would look excellent with your colors.

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